To be honest.............

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Varieties Of Honesty



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By Dr Martin Roberts
22 August 2010


VARIETIES OF HONESTY


A search of 'McCannfiles' for the phrase 'To be honest', preceded by 'Kate McCann', has yielded a total of 57 instances (Google returned with 7 pages-worth). Whilst the citations are not all attributable to Kate, her own usage of the phrase is disconcertingly frequent nevertheless:
Kate McCann: And obviously I can't talk too much about the investigation, umm, but, just trying to get through one day at a time to be honest Jenni. ...
9 Mar 2010 ... Kate McCann: It does and it doesn't. I mean, every day, to be honest, is... is quite difficult. I guess Mother's Day is another reminder ...

Kate McCann says she searches the flat three times before raising the alarm. .... KATE: To be honest I don't actually think that. It's a case. ...

Kate McCann: To be honest, I don't actually think that is the case. I think that's a very small minority of people that are ...

Kate McCann: I mean, I'd like to go back but… not for this, to be honest, it's kind of just below the surface, and I, just you know… I'd be scared, I think, ...

Sarah Montague: Could you consider going back to work, Kate? Kate McCann: Errr... not at the moment, it just doesn't... doesn't feel right, to be honest. ...

Kate McCann: I mean, to be honest... SIC Reporter: Do you still have the hope to tell them of a story in the future? Kate McCann: Oh, you know. ...

Kate McCann: I mean, the main thing for us is knowing if the sighting is credible or not, really. Errm... to be honest we don't go through that, …

Disappointed: Gerry and Kate McCann believe police should be doing more to find their ... "To be honest, most people were just really glad to see me. ...

It is the first time Kate McCann has left Portugal since Madeleine's abduction. .... I can't really think about that at the minute, to be honest." ...
Latest news on Madeleine McCann, Maddie, Kate McCann, Gerry McCann, Goncalo Amaral, ... and to be honest, I might have been tempted to turn round then, ...

...the ones that Madeleine has done I just can't pull down to be honest. ...... Distraught Kate McCann broke down in tears on Oprah as she made a TV appeal …

Gerry and Liverpool-born Kate McCann need the signatures of 393 members - that is more .... Kate: I think perhaps you are avoiding the issue to be honest. ...

Kate McCann: Well, they're not gonna show anything to implicate us, so I'm not... you know, I'm not concerned, if I'm honest.

20 Feb 2010 ... His wife added: "It's heartbreaking, to be honest.

Gerry and Kate McCann have given their first interview since their daughter Madeleine was abducted. ..... KM: I can't think about that Ian, to be honest. ...

Kate McCann: Errr... not at the moment, it just doesn't... doesn't feel right, to be honest. I mean, I'm very busy at the moment, there's a lot going on, ...

1 May 2008 ... Kate and Gerry McCann are set to take part in an ITV documentary marking the .... I felt like I was going to fight the world to be honest. ...

Kate and Gerry McCann interviewed by Telecinco, 23 August 2007 ..... and we switched off and, to be honest, we stopped reading the newspapers. ...

Kate McCann: "I do, maybe even more so, I strongly believe that Madeleine is out there, ...... These are the times when I go off to church, to be honest. ...

Tapas Seven Friend Flies Out To Kate McCann, 14 January 2010 ..... "If I'm honest, our daughter's been taken and nothing's ever going to be as bad as that," ...
In chapter 5 of his illuminating book, 'I Know You Are Lying' (2001: The Marpa Group), Mark McClish has the following to say in discussing an example of 'honesty':

'The applicant stated "You know..." The problem is we do not know if he is being honest. He has to tell us he is being truthful. Even if he were to say, "You know I am being honest" we still have a deceptive statement. He has not told us he is being honest. He expects us to take his honesty for granted. Believe what people tell you. If he tells you he is being honest, believe him. If he doesn't tell you he is being honest, you have to believe that too.'

Chapter 9 (Words And Phrases That Indicate Deception) and McClish is even more specific:

'In an effort to get you to believe their answer, people will sometimes use words or phrases designed to emphasise their truthfulness. However, studies have shown that when people use these words or phrases they may be giving you a deceptive answer. The following is a list of some of the more common deceptive words and phrases:

"Honest to God." "Truthfully"
"To be honest." "I swear to God."
"To tell the truth." "I swear on my mother's grave."

'...when you hear these words or phrases in a statement that light bulb in your head should go off. You should pay even closer attention to what the person is telling you.'

The point in relation to the above catalogue of Kate McCann's 'honest' remarks is that, in every instance, it is an 'in principle' honesty to which she refers, not her own exactly. 'To be honest' is not 'being honest' necessarily. Language offers us different structures for different logical purposes and, whether we are conscious of it or not, we choose the one which best fits the circumstances, or what it is we wish to convey exactly.

This catalogue of Kate McCann's pronouncements makes for an interesting archive when one considers that, in every instance, the statement in question may be negated by the very caveat intended to promote it.

My bolding of to be honest, original in italics.


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Don't know what to read into this, most people have some sort of phrase they repeat, i.e. at the end of the day etc. Interesting nevertheless.

Yes, a lot of people say that and I've never thought I was going to hear a lie. I would say it was just something Kate said a lot and it became a habit.

It's a bit like when people say "so he turned round and said to me" - as though you're always talking to someone's back.

Having said that there's a lot about Kate that would make me feel very uneasy if she were my GP and I'm glad she's no longer working in that profession - a profession where she would shop someone to Social Services for child neglect yet sees nothing wrong in becoming a wealthy celebrity from it herself...but that's another topic.

A person that is lying often uses the phrase "to be honest" in an attempt to convince the listener they are honest, generally most people assume that others will believe them to be honest. Hence, they will not use the phrase. Kate McCann over uses a number of red flag phrases - she often incorporates "just" and "you know" into her explanations.

Based on this person's thoughts I think I need to change my name to Pinnochio then as I tend to use "to be honest" a fair bit usually before I disagree with something said by the listener or to proceed saying something that I think they may not want to hear.

Kololi wrote:Based on this person's thoughts I think I need to change my name to Pinnochio then as I tend to use "to be honest" a fair bit usually before I disagree with something said by the listener or to proceed saying something that I think they may not want to hear.

Disagreeing with a listener is different that expressing something as truth which simply serves to answer a question Kololi.

I hate that phrase, its so lazy. It sounds like the football speak " at the end of the day" yadda yadda.

I am sure Kate McCann doesnt overuse 'to be honest' when conversing with friends/family. Its definately to keep a divide going, imo.

Oh dear, another who likes the "to be honest" phrase

Re: Another one feeling the strain...
by Truthiness » Mon Aug 23, 2010 3:20 pm

To be honest...I don't know which particular twat that one is